Have a Vision of Who Your Child Is and Who They Were Created to Become
Now to start off, let’s talk about what that does NOT mean. Sometimes the easiest way to understand what something IS is to know what is IS NOT. This vision is not something you come up with on you own. It is NOT something you get based on your own bias, agenda, hopes and dreams formed from past hurts and personal disappointments. For example, you don’t want to be that parent that pushes football on your child because you didn’t get to accomplish your own dream of becoming a football star. Especially if that child has a very limited natural interest in football. Not to mention if this is not God’s plan or design for your child.
Our children ultimately do not belong to us. We need to see our children as Gods work of art and that we are his hands and feet to mold them into who God has created them to be and who they are. I heard once that an artist does not see a block of marble as whatever they want it to become, but that they have a higher vision from the maker of the of the marble what that marble is destined to become. Then they simply remove everything from the marble that is not that vision.
We must call forth their destiny and their purpose by having an understanding of who they are. But how do we do this practically? We need to spend time in prayer asking God to give us a vision of who our child really is in God’s eyes and what He has created them to be and who they are.
There are a lot of obvious automatics for all children and people. God has called us all to walk in love and to know Him and live a life connected to His love (Matthew 22: 36-40). So if you are not sure the exacts of what they are called to be yet, you can always be sure that the foundation of that calling is to be a little Jesus that goes around loving others and changing lives through their love (Ephesians 5:1-2), while having a life connection to God, which sustains them in all that they do (John 15:4). That will always be the theme of their calling no matter what the actual details are meant to become.
Basics for who your child is (regardless of habits and behavior):
1. They are kind and loving to siblings
2. They are obedient and loving to parents
3. They are honest
4. They are gentle
5. They are helpful
6. They are selfless
7. They are loving
8. They are compassionate
9. They standup for what is right
10. Their life is an act of worship to God
11. They are passionately loved by their creator
12. They are special and unique
13. God has a special and unique plan and purpose for their life (Jeremiah 28:11)
14. They are uniquely creative
15. They have a genius all their own
16. They have incredible value that cannot be altered or destroyed in anyway, no matter what
17. They are lovers of God and not lovers of passion
18. They love others more than themselves and put others first
19. They are wise
20. They are full of joy
21. They are full of peace
22. They are good
23. They are self controlled
24. They fear the Lord and not man
25. They are more than conquerors
26. They are overcomers
27. They are lead by the Spirit of the Lord
28. They are fulfilled by God’s love
29. They can hear God’s voice and direction in their life
30. They have a hope and a future
Janelle Hood 